1. We frequently practice anal sex but my partner doesn't want anal sex because he fears that it can result in prolapse of the rectum. Can it be true? And what should we do in this case?
Prolapse of rectum is possible. Vigorous and regular anal intercourses leads to relaxation of sphincter muscle and this may become a reason for further development of incontinence of the feces. Of course, it depends on the frequency and intensity of anal contacts, and one's individual peculiarities, but the possibility still exists. Another danger of careless anal sex are tears inside anus. The use of lubricant and thoughtful approach may prevent such conditions.

2. Is anal sex the same as prostate gland massage for a man? Does it mean those who practice anal sex have less chances to suffer from prostate diseases?
Prostate massage differs from anal intercourse. A medical procedure that involves prostate stimulation for treatment has it's own peculiarities. A doctor is aware of minor details not to damage sensitive tissues. besides, prostate massage is not in always advisable which depends on what type of prostatitis a patient have. For example, prostate massage is not advisable. In some cases, anal sex may even be the cause for prostatitis because of non-physiological stimulation.

3. Can you distinguish a person who practice anal sex from the one who is not?
Regular backdoor contacts may lead to some changes to appearance of the anus- it takes a more funnel-like shape and loosing the tightness of sphincter muscles.

4. Do we need special type of condoms for anal play?
There are special condoms for anal sex- they are more stronger and thicker, but one can use common type of condoms for this purpose. The most important is to check the expiration date and manufacturer, the size of the condom. The indication of these features should be included. Use condoms of the reliable manufacturer like Lifestyle, Durex, Hot Rubber. Though most condoms are already lubricated, additional lubricant may be necessary for the play.

5. Does backdoor sex cures hemorrhoids?
Don't think that lover's of rear entry do not have hemorrhoids. It's a condition when veins of the rectum become swollen that appears for different reasons including sedentary way of life,continence or pregnancy. In any case anal intercourse can become a problem for those suffering from internal or external hemorrhoids. It may lead to bleeding and pain, that's why it's better to go for treatment first and then think about anal contact.

6. Can I come in contact with the "mess" out there?
Although anus and rectum are pathways for fecal matter, feces are not stored there all the time. You should take notice of your defecation reflex. If you ignore the defecation urges regularly this may later lead to problems and you will not know for sure the signs of "fullness" and "emptiness". If you still doubt- you can use enema to ensure everything is clean.

7. Is it necessary to use a condom for anal sex?
Many people think that if a girl cannot get pregnant, this makes anal sex relatively safe. While this is absolutely untrue, anal sex can be even more dangerous in terms of STD's. As any cavity is full of microorganisms and some of them like colon and they can get in the urethra causing serious troubles later. In other cases, when the anal tissue might get damaged, the risk of contracting such STD's like syphilis, genital herpes, HIV, gonorrhea, and Hepatitis B and C.

Do you think that details of your intimate life should be kept out of people's eyes? Not until you get in really wacky situation. Don't be ashamed to reveal some of your dark backdoor secrets - in the end we all have a skeleton in the closet. Rear entry has always been a matter of dubious interest. Hardly we could find so much about charms of butt activity if not for a bunch of trouble makers, who were in search of out-of-ordinary sensations. Emergency room - a look from outside Probably, if you could work at emergency room for just one day, you'd learn a lot about the possibilities of human body and the limits of one's imagination. When you sit at night questioning yourself: "Oh my God, what do the doctors have to say when they find the cucumber out there?"- the doctor is calmly removing the next beer mug out of some inventive guy's rectum and thinks about the complexity of this world... If you are still in doubt check out what doctors deal with: It got stuck there by chance... I swear!!! In most of the cases when the foreign object was found in the rectum it didn't get there by chance. Curiosity, lack of knowledge and search of sex experiments is the most common reasons for the things to go wrong. In spite of this fact, people are unwilling to admit the real motive of their "strange behavior". What a doctor is going to hear hundred times is: "I slipped and oops - there was a flashlight on the floor that just stuck in my butt. How come?" Hard, hard, harder... A really hard stuff was reported in medical practice. A young man arrived at hospital with a concrete mass in his butt. You may think that a fellow had some grand plans to mold his anus for next generation or he just lacked the feeling of fullness in his ass, but the real reason was quite trivial. At the height of gay fun, his boyfriend just came up with the idea to introduce fluid concrete in his partner rectum but just forgot that when it gets hardened - all the fun disappears in no time. Fortunately for the sufferer the stony cast was taken out... along with a ping-pong ball. A really wacky sport, guys... The flame is burning inside me The Star Wars would never compare with the incident that happened in Salt lake City hospital with two gays who went for some dramatic experiment. During the hot session he tried to remove a gerbil (yeah don't be scared - people are quite inventive) that eventually found his way to his partner's rectum. He inserted a cardboard tube and the gerbil moved up along the rectum. Then a genius idea struck his mind: "why not light up my mate's butt" and lighted the match to draw their little friend out of the "dark tunnel". But then the patience of the testee was over. He let the intestinal gas out and bingo! - the flame ignited, hurting both guys. The end of the story is sad: "the firer had second degree burn and had his nose attacked by gerbil" while the affected man had numerous burns to his anus. A ring in my butt If you got into trouble, just relax and laugh. That's how Mr. Mendoza took the news of his cell phone stuck in the bum. As he was an attorney he was quite convincing to explain how did the phone got in a such inappropriate place. His dog had a habit to fool around the house and took the phone to the shower. The slippery floor did the rest of the job! The man successfully landed on his fours where the meeting of his phone and his anus occurred. While the extraction of his cell phone took place for more than three hours, Mr. Mendoza was very optimistic and cracked jokes every time the incoming call disturbed the audience which made the process of removal quite enjoyable. Intense anal stimulation Fear of flying had never been so acute for those who visit aircraft rest rooms. Some overweight people experienced "unusual" sensations. While they were flushing still sitting on the seat they... their rectum actually got "swallowed" by the vacuum motions of the toilet. Sticky ass When you eventually absorb a chewing gum you suppose it to hopefully find it's way out. However, a case of agonizing excretion of this sticky stuff caused some serious trouble for the victim of the incident. The poor thing had to spent long hours waiting for the chewing gum to come out. In fact it was not that simple because gluey fibers of this stuff were coming out as a web (not world wide, but still web). Although, things wouldn't be so bad if the guy could make bubbles with a gum in his rectum.

For centuries, anal sex remained a forbidden zone - no wonder interest in this sexual activity still remains quite topical. As far as a rear entry is associated with mixed feelings of embarrassment, dirty stuff and risks, some people will not readily accept anal sex as an enjoyable experience. And though your woman can claim there should be nothing forbidden between the partners in sexual relationships who share almost everything, kicking the backdoor in still remains the last thing she agrees to try in bed. But may be the reason of her rejection is unawareness of the benefits that hold butt-play. I should remind- anus is a tight non-lubricated area where excrements come out. It seems as though Mother Nature has not included anal sex into a list of heavenly enjoyable sex practices. So what's the fuss is all about? The pleasant thing about anal sex is that anatomically anus is very close to vagina. Moreover, vagina's nerve endings are closer from that side where you set your mood to penetrate your lover. This experience can really increase the chances for it to be fancy, groovy and even satisfying. But only in case you do it skillfully. That means: you don't press for it (slowly and gently), you provide a smooth slide with lubricant, you ensure your woman's safety and take care of her feelings. But even provided all the rules of "the right penetration" are adhered to, anal sex can still not end up as a pleasant experience. Why? As every woman's (and man's) body is an individual map of erogenous zones, anus may not be a sensitive area either. In this case, anal sex has no benefits at all. So if your woman rejects the idea - she may not really enjoy the process or may be quite indifferent to such sort of stimulation. The only way out in this case is to combine stimulation of other erogenous zone with anal penetration so that both of you can be satisfied.

Women like men are also endowed with the possibility to use condoms during anal intercourse. Due to individuals' lack of experience and knowledge concerning this product people face design and usage difficulties. Female condoms provide the same protection against HIV and are as effective as male extra-strong condoms commonly recommended for anal sex. They work as an effective barrier while having anal sex. Due to the polyurethane structure that is stronger then latex, the female condom assures maximum guarantee of protection and safety. It gives the receptive partner a secured way to protect himself/herself. Also it gives a full protection covering the outer area of the anus and the base of the penis during anal sex. While using the female condom, there are certain significant steps that have to be taken before, during and after anal sex. If you are ready to start the intercourse, insert the condom within the rectum making sure the outside ring is outside the anus. You will notice that about one inch of the open end will stay outside. It seems to look unusual but the very part is going to protect you and your partner during sex. In order to assure a better comfort you can use more lubricant either inside or outside the condom. While making sex you can observe that the condom moves around. There are situations when the condom could slip up and down within the anal cavity riding the penis. Be careful in the situation when the outer ring of the condom is pushed into the anus. Stop the act if you notice that the penis starts to enter underneath or beside the sheath. Reinsert it within the covered anus. If you decide to stop the anal intercourse take out the condom, squeeze and twist the outer ring to keep any fluid inside the pouch. You should pull gently the fluids out and throw it away. Be sure of not reusing the condom. Change the condom each time you want to start a new intercourse. Female condoms are not designed for fisting or activities involving urine. Remember! While putting the condom that has been in the anus into the vagina it is risky and is not advisable. Vaginal sex following the anal one requires the usage of a new condom. The condom is suitable, convenient, and handy. It assures high protection and safe sex. Now women are given the possibility to attain pleasure during anal sex without thinking of infections or other STDs.

Both women and men have the possibility to explore anal sex, either through masturbation or sex with his/her partner. The rectum is provided with sensible nerve endings and strong muscles around it that feel greatly when touched. Men's prostate glands are reached through rectum and are directly stimulated through anal sex. Women's G-spots are indirectly stimulated while anal intercourse. Most individuals are eagerly searching for different ways of penetrating their rectum. Butt plug is a kind of anal toy aimed to be introduced within the anus for sexual pleasure. To some extent it is similar to a dildo excepting its size and shape. It is typically diamond-shaped with a thin neck and a flared base. The inserted in rectum objects can travel up into the anus and bowel. For preventing them from slipping into the rectum each butt plug has the very flared end. Also it is provided with a bulge in the middle. It helps the butt plug stay in place, assuring your hands to freely pursue other pleasures. Butt plug tends to be shorter than dildo and should be very smooth in order to avoid rectum's damaging. In order to insert or remove the butt plug into/from the anus you need a large amount of sexual lubricant and a delicate approach regarding this process. It is undoubtedly required to put a condom on the butt plug for your hygiene, assuring a better safety and an easy disposal of any feces. Do not share condoms with other individuals. STDs could be easily transmitted through bodily fluids from one partner to another. Remove the condom before penetrating other places. Butt plugs can be also used during vaginal, oral and urethral penetrations. They may be transferred and rotated to and from the rectum, mouth, vagina, and urethra. Be sure the vagina is covered in a plastic wrap whereas the butt plug into a condom. In this way you will decrease the risk of causing infections, sickness and other illnesses. Nevertheless a lot of individuals are not precocious and neglect these simple, but significant suggestions. Butt plugs come in a wide range of colors, textures, sizes, shapes. They are made of different materials like neoprene, wood, metal, stone, silicone, etc. Usually Latex is used for their manufacturing. Some butt plugs are designed to look like phalluses; some of them are ribbed or even wavy. Also you can see vibrating butt plugs and butt plugs that can expand and inflate. Certain of them are made especially for men (prostate's stimulation). Others are able to "ejaculate" by squirting water or other viscous fluids into the anus. Their huge variety helps you choosing the one you really like and need.

The individuals in general prefer practicing anal sex. But they are not adequately informed and aware of the disadvantages and diseases anal sex could bring. They think anal sex is safer than the vaginal one. That is why people do not care about protection against sexually transmitted diseases including the terrible HIV. In reality this kind of sex is more dangerous than vaginal or oral sex. It is proved that STDs are transmitted through anal intercourse. This happens because of the anus and rectum thin tissues that can be easily damaged. So, viruses and bacteria triumphantly make headway to man's body. Also anal sex is considered to be dangerous due to the high risk of contact with blood. The mucous tissues of bowels are able to absorb everything that gets from outside. So, bowels can be a real source of blood intoxication with any virus. It is undoubtedly required to protect yourself and your partner from different diseases and injuries during anal intercourse. HIV and other STD's are eagerly waiting to settle down to your comfortable body. Remember! Any insignificant injures or sores can occur as the result of any anal stimulation. The risk of intoxication is high no matter whether this stimulation is provided with finger, hand or an anal toy. That is why you need and must use a condom- the easiest and the most perfect way to assure a safer anal sex. Your carelessness regarding ways of anal protection could bear unpleasant moments in your life and even death.

Some MUST DO for any anal intercourse

1. Use condoms
   If you plan to have anal sex think first of all of condoms! This is the strictest rule that can never be ignored. These beneficial products are handily, small and easy to carry. Use them for each anal intercourse. The most suitable for anal sex condoms are the heavy-duty ones, but simple condoms are good as well. So, do not hesitate to fill your pocket with condoms. If you prefer anal sex they are inevitable!
2. Put condom on properly
   Make sure you or your partner is acquainted with the way of putting on condom correctly the. Remember: the condom is effective only if it is put on correctly.
3. Use lubricant based on water
   It is known that unlike vagina anus has no natural lubrication. That is why in order to avoid pain and injuries you need an anal lube. Use the water- based lubricant! It doesn't damage the texture of condoms like oil based lubricants do. Also it is necessary to mention that oil-based lubricant unfortunately damages the material certain anal sex toys are made of. In this case water-based lubricant is the most suitable choice!
4. Use more lubricant!
   Anal lubricant aims to minimize the risk of condom breakage. More lubrication- maximum effects and minimum risks. Be generous for better results!
5. Prepare your anus for its first contact
   Make sure you are ready for anal penetration! This implies a variety of actions to do. You can insert your fingers into the anus or ask your partner to do it. Also you can use several anal toys for its easiest penetration with penis.
6. Use anal toys properly
   Be aware of some rules you must take into consideration. These rules deal especially with your own hygiene you must take care of.
7. Take care of your anal toys properly!
   As we've wrote above rectum is very sensible and can absorb viruses and bacteria faster. Pay attention to your sex toys. They must be entirely clean before usage. If you need more information on how to clean your anal toys see our Sex Toys Guide.
8. Do not use the same toy for both anal and vaginal penetration
   Anal sex toys are not aimed for vaginal usage. If you took the sex toy from your anus off don't introduce it immediately into your vagina. The risk of your vagina's infection is guaranteed. For anal stimulation use such toys as anal probes, butt plugs, anal vibrators, etc.
9. The end means the end
   You must stop the intercourse if the receiving partner asks you to do this.

These rules are worthy to be accomplished by you and your partner. Your health relies only on you! Be responsible and try to overcome all difficulties and unpleasant instants while having anal sex. You might think that the rules mentioned above are too bored and meticulous. Maybe be they are. But 2 minutes spent for your safety can protect your future sexual life from pain and psychological traumas.

Anal sex is still one of the most widely spread intercourse among people. Although it is considered to be a little bit outlandish and too perverted it captivates the individuals' minds and prevails over their sexual ideas and fantasies. It is not such a difficult and meticulous process to get ready for anal intercourse. This operation requires certain important steps that need to be taken every time you want to proceed in action. First of all you must feel ready and truly convinced you really want to do it. Make yourself comfortable and excited. No tension and no more doubts! Be patient and take care of your partner, avoiding him/ her suffering from misunderstandings and incorrect actions. If you feel your rectum is full you need to give yourself an enema to prevent spreading of the infections. Then, a prior shower comes. It deals with the hygiene of you and your partner. It is a MUST DO operation. Be cleanly, tidy and try to avoid any mess for your pleasure and sexuality. Use condoms and dental dams for a better protection and anal penetration. Lubricated latex condoms are the most suitable for this purpose. Condom (if you use sex toys), latex glove (for manual stimulation) or a dental dam (for oral stimulation) is an absolutely necessary set of things for a safe anal pleasure. Prepare psychologically your partner using your sensuality and your favorite sexual games. Certain aphrodisiacs, oils, crèmes even alcoholic beverages are welcomed for a better relaxation and courage. Make the anus ready for penetration by massaging it and getting into your fingers. Don't forget to use the lubricant, if it is needed. Additional lubrication is required anyway, because anus doesn't produce a natural one. It can create difficulties and pain for the "receiving" partner. Also you can use a toy, an anal vibrator or other funny tool for relaxing the anus muscles. You can add a note of desire and pleasure by stimulating the anus with your tongue (annilingus - the oral-anal contact). It is usually used when the partners are open-minded, confident and are willing to experience together new sensations. Don't be ashamed of new attempts! Try everything that is able to enhance your pleasure and satisfaction. Be yourself and savor your sexual life in peace and love.

Anal sex is not a readily accepted sex practice even within the most trustful and long-term intimate relationships. There are a lot of people who won't even listen to reason to try this kind of forbidden play, and this choice should be respected anyway. But there are also those who are hesitant to try and it leaves some anal sex lovers a hope to proselyte. And that means... there is something you can do to persuade your better half to engage in the rear entry intercourse.

1. Raise the topic as though eventually. Watching an adult movie or reading an article can bring the discussion around the attitude towards anal sex. It is important to make sure he or she won't be scared at the idea. You may ensure your partner that you will take care of safety and won't do anything to deter him or her from having sexual pleasure next time.
2. Make anal penetration a pleasant part of the intercourse. Don't be pushy to start anal practice right at the beginning. Remember that candy thing should go first. Intimate massage or prolonged foreplay can become a staring point to proceed to a backdoor activity. Does he or she enjoy oral sex or falls for role-playing? Indulge her deepest urges in the first place and you will be half-way towards your goal in persuading your partner to try anal sex.
3. Engage the nearby sensitive areas. Keep in mind that the genital area is located close to anus, which means that one step towards anal pleasure lies through stimulation of pelvic zone. For women it will be outer labia, clitoris, the vaginal opening, and inner thighs and for men these are- scrotum, perineum and inner thighs. Caressing those sensitive zones with your fingers and mouth can greatly benefit to enjoyable anal intercourse. While your partner gets higher you can try to whisper in his ears your proposal and watch over the reaction.
4. Take things step by step First of all, keep a water-based lubricant and condom or cot handy. That will save you the trouble of worrying about safety and hygiene. Introduce a finger pre-lubricated covered with cot into his or her anus and follow your partner's response. If it feels good, he or she will show you signs of pleasure: increased breathing, sighing and moving thighs closer to you - you are on the right way, if your partner turns away it's better to stop and leave it over until the next time.
5. Move on to something spicier Once you see your partner is enjoying the process you may introduce something for a more intense stimulation. Try anal sex toys: anal probes, butt plugs, anal beads or anal vibrators. All of them were designed to make anal intercourse easier and more comfortable, that’s why using them before you actually penetrate your partner with penis.
When you actually get to the point of having pleasant anal sex, it becomes a good base to experiment with other sex activities. But don't forget that if your partner didn’t like the play, there is always a second chance to enjoy anal sex.

Missionary position

Missionary position which is often the common during vaginal penetration is also considered quite popular for anal sex. An insertive partner is on top while the receiving partner lies on his back with his legs apart. Advantages This is very comfortable for first-timers, as in the missionary position the receiver gets maximum relaxation for anus. Disadvantages It could be rather tiresome for an inserter as he needs to support his body on his arms. How to perform In order to make anal penetration much easier, additional prop may be necessary. You may use a pillow or a towel to raise the buttocks to the level when it becomes comfortable enough for entry. It is also important that the more a bottom exposes his or her legs, the more relaxed anus will be.

Doggy style position

Doggy style or rear entry position may be the first to come into your mind when you consider anal pleasure for the first time. A receiver kneels forward while an inserter penetrates from behind. Advantages Doggy style is mainly a benefit for an inserter as in this position he is derives utmost comfort. Besides it's much easier from this position to control thrusting. Disadvantages Doggy style is not considered the best for neophytes as surprisingly it doesn't allow relaxing anus properly. How to perform In order to make penetration more comfortable a top person should angle his penis or sex toy right at the level with the anus. Insertion is better performed when things are taken step by step. A more improved way to perfect this position is to try rear entry with bottom partner standing. It is recommended for a receiver to keep his legs closer – this allows relaxing anus better.

Reverse missionary position

In this position receiving partner is on top while an inserter is lying down. Advantages This position is first of all advantageous for a partner who is on top position as it gives better control over thrusting- he may actually choose what feels more comfortable. Disadvantages In a position where you have a leading part, the most comfort will be given to a top partner unless he is restrained. How to perform First thing to keep in mind is to relax and loosen anus for the receiver. It would be more comfortable for the receiver to lean forward for this purpose. As for an inserter, immovability is the best policy to make penetration smoother.

Spooning position

In a spooning position a top partner penetrates the bottom one from behind. Receiver's legs are apart to make entry easier. Advantages With both partners lying on their back spooning position can be the most comfortable to make anal sex enjoyable. You may also say that spooning position contributes to those who have bigger penis. Disadvantages Though you may call it rather enjoyable and relaxing for both partners, some find it a bit troublesome for the top. How to perform For easier penetration a receiving partner should feel relaxed enough to smooth the sensations while the inserter needs to find the better angle.

One of the most important points we should start any anal intercourse is picking up the right lubricant. Since anus doesn't produce its own lubrication, in order to smooth all the sensations and make penetration easier. Today you may choose from plenty of lube types available at sex market today. Water-based lubricants Basically, water-based lubes are fit or all sexual practices as they are absolutely friendly to your sex toys, condoms, skin and all in all are not so whimsical in care and use. But there are also water-based lubes designed for more refined pleasure games, like flavored ones, which are not recommended for anal play anyway. As most can contain sugar, there is a small chance it can provoke yeast infection. But if talking about foreplay, flavored water-based lube can well go as a great enhancer if used for external purposes. Silicone-based lubricants Silicone-based lubricants appeared not so long ago. The main advantage of this type of lubricant is that you can use it practically for any kind of anal or other sex plays, as its advanced features contribute to better application. Silicone lube won't damage latex so you may quite easily use it while watching over safety with the condom use. Besides silicone lube will absorb much slower than water-based one. But as long as you decide to use a silicone sex toy, silicone lube should be avoided as both become incompatible. Oil- and petroleum-based lubricants Oil- and petroleum-based lubricants are rarely picked as a number one choice for erotic play. This is due to some drawbacks oil and petroleum based lubes have. First no latex condoms and a lot of sex toys materials will match well with this lubricants. Women also avoid using lubricants containing oils because of the danger it holds for genitals and other sensitive areas of the body. As oils are much harder to clean up, there is a danger of the oil layer to stay, which becomes a favorable medium for bacteria and infections to spread. Desensitizing lubricants That is actually a type of lubricant which is often recommended particularly for anal sex. Desensitizing lubes have thicker consistence and desensitizing agent added to this lubricant can prolong erotic play.